Eleanor Rigby

Waits at the window

Wearing the face that she keeps in a jar by the door

Who is it for?

The Beatles, “Eleanor Rigby”

Two weeks ago, I emailed a friend.  I wrote, “At this moment (and this could easily shift in the next moment), I seem to be settling in to acceptance of this…as it is.  It feels less of a struggle…less of a longing for what comes next.”  One-hundred moments later, I sat with Sloane trying to teach her to write her letters correctly. I could see she was getting more and more deflated as I emphasized which letters go from the first floor to the basement of the letter “house” and which are first and second floor letters.  Yet, I persisted having her practice writing them until she had them correct. Practice makes perfect.  Her brow drooped.  Her head hung lower.  Then she looked at me and said, “You’re mean!” And, I crumbled. 

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From Fallback to Spring Forward: Bringing our better selves in times of complexity

It’s time to get into some theory! (She writes with geekiness oozing through the screen.) Truly, I do love me some theory. And, some research. Yet, I’ve grown disenchanted with writing it up in awkward third-person narrative for only the people who have access to academic databases and peer-reviewed journals to read.

Let’s get it into the hands of the people. Let’s make it available and readable to those who could care less about the methodology I used to conduct my research, but really want to know why they had one set of capabilities to show up three minutes ago and find themselves in this moment reduced to the emotional and relational capacities of a toddler. I wrote and published the below article on Monday on Medium. 

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